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Saturday, October 8, 2016

Steve Jobs - style of getting work done


Jobs launched two of the most valuable and creative companies in modern times with Apple and Pixar — but he didn't reach those heights by following the rules all the time.

Jobs faced many obstacles to get Apple and Pixar off the ground. But he had a unique way of crafting his own reality, a “distortion field” he'd use to persuade people that his personal beliefs were actually facts, which is how he pushed his companies forward.

He also used a blend of manipulative tactics to ensure his victories, particularly in boardroom meetings with some of the most powerful company executives in the world.

Many consider Jobs a genius, and everyone can learn a thing or two from his tactics.

Here, we teach you how to get what you want — whether that’s in your career, or in your life in general — by using examples from Jobs’ life. Most of these stories were taken from Walter Isaacson's biography of Steve Jobs, which you can buy here.


Pitch with passion. People can be influenced by strong displays of emotion.
Pitching was a key part of Jobs’ repertoire, and it should be part of yours, too. The process of selling — yourself, or a product — is the key to getting others to buy into your ideas.

Before Apple launched iTunes in 2001, Jobs met with dozens of musicians in the hopes of corralling record labels into going along with the iTunes plan. One of the people Jobs pitched to was prominent trumpet player Wynton Marsalis.

Marsalis said Jobs talked for two hours straight.

“He was a man possessed,” he said. “After awhile, I started looking at him and not the computer, because I was so fascinated with his passion.”

He also pitched ideas to his ad team with a similar passion to “ensure that almost every ad they produced was infused with his emotion.” The resulting commercials, like the "1984" ad and the iPod silhouette ads, helped Apple become much more than just a computer company.

Being brutally honest will help you build a strong following.
When Steve Jobs returned to Apple for his second stint in 1997, he immediately got to work trying to invigorate the company he started, which was suffering from too many products and too little direction. Jobs summoned Apple’s top employees to the auditorium, and, wearing shorts and sneakers, got up on stage and asked everyone to tell him “what’s wrong with this place.”

After some murmurings and bland responses, Jobs cut everyone off. “It’s the products! So what’s wrong with the products?” Again, more murmurs. Jobs shouted, “The products suck! There’s no sex in them anymore!”

People would buy into Jobs' ideas because he was always earnest about what he said. As he later told his biographer (emphasis ours): “I don’t think I run roughshod over people, but if something sucks, I tell people to their face. It’s my job to be honest. I know what I’m talking about, and I usually turn out to be right. That’s the culture I tried to create. We are brutally honest with each other, and anyone can tell me they think I am full of s--t and I can tell them the same... That’s the ante for being in the room: You’ve got to be able to be super honest."

Work hard, and others will respect you. Respect is a crucial first step to getting what you want.
Steve Jobs had an incredible work ethic. Jobs told his biographer that when he returned to Apple in 1996, he worked from 7 a.m. to 9 p.m. every day, since he was still also leading Pixar's operations. He worked tirelessly, and suffered from kidney stones. But he insisted on motivating both companies by consistently showing up and pushing people to make the best products possible, and they respected him for it.

Disarm people with seduction and flattery.
Whether they’re working for you, or you’re working for them, people continually seek approval for their actions — so they respond very well to affection.

And if you keep giving it to them, they’ll eventually crave it from you. From Isaacson’s biography (emphasis ours):

“Jobs could seduce and charm people at will, and he liked to do so. People such as (former Apple CEOs) Amelio and Sculley allowed themselves to believe that because Jobs was charming them, it meant that he liked and respected them. It was an impression that he sometimes fostered by dishing out insincere flattery to those hungry for it. But Jobs could be charming to people he hated just as easily as he could be insulting to people he liked.”

Claim all the good ideas are yours — and if you’re reversing your position, get behind the new idea with full force. Memories of the past can be easily manipulated.
Steve Jobs wasn’t right all the time, but he was a master at convincing people he was. So how did he do it? He stood firmly in one position, and if your position was actually better than his, he wouldn’t just acknowledge it: He’d adopt your position as his own, which would throw you off balance.

Bud Tribble, a former Mac engineer, had this to say in Jobs’ biography (emphasis ours):

“Just because he tells you something that is awful or great, it doesn’t necessarily mean he’ll feel that way tomorrow. If you tell him a new idea, he’ll usually tell you that he thinks it’s stupid. But then, if he actually likes it, exactly one week later, he’ll come back to you and propose your idea to you, as if he thought of it.”

An example: When Apple decided to open retail stores for its products, Jobs’ retail SVP Ron Johnson came up with the idea of a “Genius Bar,” which would be staffed “with the smartest Mac people.” At first, Jobs called the idea crazy. “You can’t call them geniuses. They’re geeks,” he said. “They don’t have the people skills to deliver on something called the genius bar.” The next day, Apple’s general counsel was told to trademark the name “Genius Bar.”

Make decisions quickly and definitively. You can (usually) always change things later.
When it came to making new products, Apple rarely considered studies, surveys, and research. It was also rare for a major decision to take several months; Jobs tended to get bored easily and was quick to go with his gut.

In the case of the first iMacs, Jobs immediately decided Apple would release the new computers in a rainbow of candy colors.

Jony Ive, Apple’s chief of design, said “in most places that decision would have taken months. Steve did it in a half hour.”

On the same computer, iMac engineer Jon Rubinstein tried to argue that the iMac should come with a CD tray; but Jobs detested CD trays and he really wanted a high-end slot drive. On that particular decision, Jobs was wrong — burning music could only be accomplished on CD trays, and as that trend took off, the first round of iMacs were left behind. But since Jobs was able to make quick decisions, the first iMacs shipped on time, and the second-generation desktops included the CD drive that could rip and burn music, which was the necessary peg Apple needed to launch iTunes and the iPod.

Don’t wait to fix problems. Fix them now.
When Jobs was working with Pixar on “Toy Story,” which would be the first feature-length film created entirely with 3D animation, the first iteration of Woody the cowboy had gradually turned into a jerk, mainly through script edits handed down by Disney. But Jobs refused to let Disney, one of the biggest companies in the world, ruin Pixar’s original story.

“If something isn’t right, you can’t just ignore it and say you’ll fix it later,” Jobs said. “That’s what other companies do.”

Jobs insisted that Disney give the reins back to Pixar, and in the end, Woody became a very likeable and thee-dimensional character (no pun intended) in "Toy Story," which went on to be a monumental success.

Another example: When Jobs was designing the first Apple Store, his retail VP Ron Johnson woke up in the middle of a night before a big meeting with an excruciating thought: They had organized the stores completely wrong. Apple had previously organized the stores by the types of products being sold, but Johnson realized Apple needed to organize the store based around what people might want to do with those products.

Johnson told Jobs his epiphany the next morning, and after a brief eruption from Jobs, the Apple CEO told all who attended that day’s meeting that Johson was absolutely right, and they needed to redo the entire layout, which delayed the planned rollout by 3-4 months. “We’ve only got one chance to get it right,” Jobs said.

There are two ways to deal with problematic people: Either address them head on…
Jobs often saw the world through binary terms: “A person was either a hero or a bozo, a product was either amazing or s--t.” He wanted Apple to be a company of “A players,” which meant regularly cutting B and C players, or pushing them with great fervor — bullying them, to some extent — to become A players.

Before Apple launched the Macintosh, one of the engineers charged with building a mouse that could easily move the cursor in every direction — not just up/down and left/right — told Bill Atkinson, one of the early Apple employees who developed graphics for the Mac, that there was “no way to build such a mouse commercially.” After Jobs heard about the complaint over dinner, Atkinson arrived at work the next day only to discover Jobs had fired the engineer. The first words said by the engineer’s replacement were, “I can build the mouse.”

...Or "follow the line of least involvement" and ignore them entirely.
Jobs did not like overly complex issues, especially if they required him to make accommodations. So on occasion, he would become totally aloof. As Jobs’ biographer Walter Isaacson said, “Jobs would go silent and ignore situations that made him uncomfortable.”

Jobs used this tactic, which was extremely effective, on several occasions: When Apple’s then-CEO Gil Amelio asked what role he wanted to play in the company after he rejoined via the NeXT acquisition — Jobs couldn’t say “I want your job,” after all — and when he wasn’t sure how to deal with his estranged daughter Lisa.

Chrisann Brennan, the mother of Jobs’ daughter Lisa, described this tactic to Jobs biographer (again, emphasis ours):

“There was a community of people who wanted to preserve his Woodside house due to its historical value, but Steve wanted to tear it down and build a home with an orchard. Steve let that house fall into so much disrepair and decay over a number of years that there was no way to save it. The strategy he used to get what he wanted was to simply follow the line of least involvement and resistance. So by his doing nothing on the house, and maybe even leaving the windows open for years, the house fell apart. Brilliant, no?"

Strike when the iron’s hot, and strike hard.
Success usually tricks people into thinking they can stop working; Jobs had a much different point of view. When his big bet on Pixar paid off, and the company’s first movie “Toy Story” was a huge success with critics and the box office, Jobs decided to take the company public.

Investment bankers said it couldn’t happen, especially after Pixar had hemorrhaged money for five years prior. Even John Lasseter, Pixar’s creative head, told Jobs he should wait until after Pixar’s second film. But Jobs insisted.

“Steve overruled me and said we needed the cash so we could put up half the money for our films and renegotiate the Disney deal,” Lasseter told Jobs’ biographer.

And that’s exactly what happened. Pixar held its IPO one week after “Toy Story” opened in theaters, and it was a wild success: It exceeded Netscape as the biggest IPO of 1995, and more importantly, it meant Pixar no longer needed to be dependent on Disney to finance its movies. Suddenly, Disney, with its flailing animation department, needed Pixar, instead of the other way around. The Mickey Mouse company would later realize this fact, and pay $7.4 billion to acquire Pixar — effectively making Jobs the biggest shareholder of Disney, keeping Pixar independent, and also saving Disney's once-great animation department in the process.

When you have leverage, USE IT.
It was huge news when Steve Jobs returned to Apple, the company he helped start but had since lost its “magic.” Jobs insisted he was only an “advisor” to Apple at the time, but those in and around Apple knew he was really in control. Apple's then-CEO Gil Amelio depended on Jobs for the company’s vision moving forward.

So, on his first Thursday back at Apple, Jobs used this newfound leverage to his advantage: He called a board meeting and demanded Apple reprice its stock options by lowering the exercise price to make them valuable again. It was legal at the time, but not considered good business, at least ethically. But even after the board of directors balked at the idea, saying a study would take at least two months, Jobs fired back.

“You brought me here to fix this thing, and people are the key… Guys, if you don’t want to do this, I’m not coming back on Monday. Because I’ve got thousands of key decisions to make that are far more difficult than this, and if you can’t throw your support behind this kind of decision, I will fail. So if you can’t do this, I'm out of here, and you can blame it on me, you can say, ‘Steve wasn’t up for the job.’”

The board gave Jobs what he wanted. But Jobs didn’t stop there: The next day, he demanded all the board members resign, “or else I’m going to resign and not come back on Monday.” He said all the board members had to go, except for Ed Woolard, and that’s exactly what happened. By being able to choose his own board members — and act independently from them — he had the power to control Apple's next projects, which made it possible for gadgets like the iPod to exist.

Demand perfection, and don’t settle for anything less.
Jobs detested anyone who was ready to make compromises to get a product out on time and on budget. He found adequacy to be “morally appalling.” Jobs' goal for Apple was never to simply beat competitors, or even to make money: it was to make the greatest product possible, “or even a little greater.”

He was demanding about everything:

• When the Macintosh booted up too slowly, he badgered the engineer responsible, equating the situation to a matter of life or death.

• He worked with countless artists and advertising agencies to make sure Apple's ads had the right feel, and that the imagery and the audio synced up perfectly.

• Of the iPod engineers, he demanded the ability to access any function on the music player with three button presses, and no more.

• He insisted the production process for all Apple computers be shaved down from four months to two.

Each one of these individual decisions could be considered nitpicks, but when put all together, Apple created a cult-like following unlike any other. Unlike other tech companies that had come and gone, customers and loyal fans felt like Apple put their interests first, and they were, as a result, willing to pay high prices for those products.

“Steve created the only lifestyle brand in the tech industry,” Oracle cofounder Larry Ellison told Jobs’ biographer. “There are cars people are proud to have — Porsche, Ferrari, Prius — because what I drive says something about me. People feel the same way about an Apple product.”
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Tuesday, August 2, 2016

Brevity in Communication

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Brevity in Communication



Brevity - concise and exact use of words in writing or speech

Communications consultant Joseph McCormack presents valuable tips on how to convey information leanly and meanly. Philosopher Friedrich Nietzsche wrote: “It is my ambition to say in 10 sentences what others say in a whole book.” Or take an almost perfect example of a telling message that is “short, sweet and to the point”: champion boxer Muhammad Ali’s short-short poem, “Me? Whee!” Amid today’s information overload, lean messaging is essential if you want people to get your point. getAbstract recommends McCormack’s manual to anyone seeking to communicate concisely and clearly.
In this summary, you will learn
·         Why brevity is important
·         What “seven capital sins” work against brevity
·         What four practices support lean, clean communications
·         What methods you can use to communicate succinctly

Take-Aways
·         People won’t read or listen to lengthy messages, so make yours “short, sweet and to the point.”
·         Short attention spans grow shorter daily, and distractions divert people quickly.
·         Learn to communicate briefly as a habit.
·         Don’t equate brevity with superficiality. Provide smart, savvy “deep brevity.”
·         Seven “capital sins” work against brevity: “cowardice, confidence, callousness, comfort, confusion, complication” and “carelessness.”
·         Lean, clean communications rest on four practices:
·         “Map it.” Outline what you plan to share.
·         “Tell it.” Tell a story to get your points across.
·         “Talk it.” Avoid monologues. Make your discussions “controlled conversations” instead so you involve others and discover what matters to them.
·         “Show it.” Illustrate your tale with photos, graphics and other visuals.
 
 
Blah, Blah, Blah…
Today’s constant barrage of information leaves you totally exhausted. Many people claim to feel as if they suffer attention-deficit disorder. Roger Bohn and James Short of the University of California at San Diego report that Americans collectively manage approximately 1.3 trillion hours of information above the information they manage at work. The average American “consumed 100,500 words on an average day.”
If you have something to communicate, be brief. Get to the point immediately and get your message across quickly in the clearest, most cogent way – before something distracts your overloaded readers or listeners.
“When you want to get more, decide to say less. Those who want to succeed – even thrive – in an attention-deficit economy are masters of lean communication.”
“Deep Brevity”
As you practice brevity, don’t equate it with superficiality. Your goal should be deep brevity – being “succinct and savvy.” If you’re not efficient, people won’t hear what you want to communicate. Despite the importance of brevity, few people speak directly, clearly and concisely.
“When you think you have an hour and you wait to deliver the good stuff until the end, you’re too late.”
Besides just liking to talk, this failing stems from the “seven capital sins” that sabotage brevity:
1.      “Cowardice” – You need to communicate about a subject involving numerous perspectives and ramifications. You feel you must fully explain each of these aspects. You are afraid to leave anything out.
2.     “Confidence” – You know the subject so well you could easily go on for hours.
3.     “Callousness” – You fail to consider others’ needs or to respect their time. You drone on, which is the last thing people want.
4.     “Comfort” – Once you begin to speak, you feel so at home that you don’t shut up.
5.     “Confusion” – Your mind juggles umpteen diverse details. Trying to blurt out all of this information at the same time is a mistake.
6.     “Complication” – You believe your subject is too complex to explain briefly.
7.     ‘Carelessness” – You are intemperate in your commentary and say something you shouldn’t say. That wastes time.
“If you are giving people progress reports, being brief requires that you give them what they are looking for – not all of the other details and information they really don’t care about.”
Strategies For Brevity
Make brevity second nature. Make your communications short and sweet. Make habitual brevity part of your “mental muscle memory.” You can use four proven strategies to make brevity the signature element of your communications style:
“Whereas we remember only 10 % of what we hear and 30% of what we read, we remember a whopping 80% of what we see.”
1. “Map It”
Before you communicate, plan your approach. Never improvise. Outline your primary ideas on paper. Mapping helps you to be succinct. Plan the way your ideas will connect. This works for any type of communication – even a telephone call. Write out your four most important points.
Outlining delivers important benefits. It fully prepares you to communicate effectively. It also organizes your thoughts, which will help you get all of your points across. If you make a roadmap, you’ll have a clear understanding of what you want to communicate. You’ll be ready to provide needed context, and you’ll feel confident that you can share a compelling, complete story.
“Narrative mapping synthesizes volumes of information into a visual outline that produces a logical, strategic, highly contextual and relevant story.”
2. “Tell It”
Everyone loves to hear a good story. People remember stories, in marked contrast to the “corporate speak” that characterizes many business communications today, and which doesn’t engage people at all. Rather than boring people and turning them off, use narrative storytelling as a primary component of your communications strategy.
“From blogs and microblogs to Twitter, Instagram and beyond, there has been a growing emphasis to make communication easier and shorter to produce and share content online.”
Storytelling helps you be “clear, concise and compelling.” It conveys your points quickly and in the most commanding fashion. In 2007, Steve Jobs debuted the inaugural iPhone at MacWorld in 2007 by telling a story. He began by saying, “Every once in a while, a revolutionary product comes along that changes everything, Today, Apple is going to reinvent the phone.”
Jobs explained that Apple was a special company that developed products to meet people’s most “fundamental need.” All stories require a “villain or a conflict.” In Jobs’s story, the villains were Apple’s competitors who manufactured hard-to-use cellphones. Jobs finished his story by explaining that the iPhone would prove to be one of the world’s most groundbreaking products.
“Like Apple, businesses that embrace stories can make quick connections that last. Those that feel stories aren’t appropriate leave people hungry, confused and irritated.”
For effective storytelling, keep your story short. Long stories bore listeners. And “don’t fall in love with fables.” For an effective communication, “Once upon a time” won’t cut it. Instead, quickly communicate your subject’s core information, “why, how, who, when, where and what” in a compelling, universal tale.
“People are eager for stories. Not dissertations. Not lectures. Not informative essays.” (Kendall Haven, Story Proof )
Your associates may want to use a narrative storytelling technique, but they might not know just how it works. To help your team, don’t just instruct them to use narratives. Instead, help them learn how to tell stories.
Start by teaching them the elements of the “narrative map”:
“Brevity is your weapon – and it starts with the résumé. Trim it, highlight your successes and put them in context.”
·         “Focal point” – This is your “headline,” or main narrative element.
·         “Setup” – This explains the main marketplace challenge that your organization plans to address.
·         “Opportunity” – This is the “aha moment” when you make things change by explaining how your organization is responding to this moment in the market.
·         “Approach” – How does the tale develop? List the people involved or explain the who, why and when.
·         “Payoff” – Begin and conclude your story by explaining how your audience or company will benefit.
“Good interviews…are short and to the point. You make it easy for your potential employer to understand who you are, where you’ve come from and why you’ve been successful.”
3. “Talk It”
People dislike long monologues. A light, conversational, to-the-point style engages people more than formal speechmaking. Your job is to keep the people on the other side of the conversation actively involved. This is an uphill struggle when you are the only speaker. Set out to establish “controlled conversations” in which both parties willingly engage in an exchange.
Avoid three commonplace conversational mistakes:
“To be brief is to create a compact quality of expression.”
1.      “Passive listening” – You allow the other party to expound without saying anything.
2.     “Waiting my turn” – The other person says something and, without really hearing, you say something. This common practice is rude, and it leads to having two people talking past each other in two separate conversations,
3.     “Impulsively reacting” – A single word sets you off, and you immediately respond.
“I think that ideas…have to be extremely brief. Three words are better than four, or four words are better than six.” – Kristi Faulkner, president and founder, Womenkind
4. “Show It”
Dynamic images can help you deliver your message in the most powerful way. Visual communications are always stronger than unadorned text. This is particularly true in today’s high-tech world, where computer screens and monitors dominate. Pictures, graphics and other visuals engage readers and command their attention. Visuals deliver more information than words in a compelling, efficient editorial package. Efficiency is a signal characteristic of brevity.
The USA Today approach, which has had a profound effect on editorial communications – and is directly responsible for the burgeoning field of infographics – provides a sound example of the power of graphics and visuals. By incorporating strong graphic elements into its editorial format, USA Today makes its stories shorter while delivering maximum impact and information.
“When we fail to be clear and concise, the consequences can be brutal: wasted time, money and resources; decisions made in confusion; worthy ideas rejected; people sent off in wrong directions; done deals that always seem to stall.”
“Truths, Implications, Plans/Practices” (TIPS)
Refer to these “less is more” tips to keep your communications brief, clear and to the point. They will help you engage your audience, whether it’s one person or 10,000:
·         Brevity’s basic requirements – You need plenty of planning, preparation and discipline. Respect your audience members and never waste their time.
·         “The elusive 600” – Humans can speak at a rate of around 150 words per minute, and the mind can process around 750 words a minute. A listener’s mind can wander while you speak. With any distraction, your audience members’ focus can drift. To command their attention, be brief and direct.
·         “Why Why Why” – Communicate with a why, why, why approach. Get to the point immediately. Hit it hard and revisit it throughout your presentation. “Why” is the core of your message. Your audience will find it impossible to understand what you are trying to say if you don’t supply reasons. Solidify your “why” by including the phrase “And this is important because…”
·         Use headlines – Don’t make people guess what you are trying to communicate. Take a tip from the newspapers and include a big, up-front headline that makes everything clear.
·         Trim, trim and trim – You never want to just spill every thought that enters your mind. Edit, and then edit some more.
·         Shape what you communicate by listening to others – Make sure your message will be relevant to your audience.
·         “The power of three” – The best way to organize your material and to secure the attention of your audience is to group everything into threes. This gives your audience an easy way to manage the information you present.
·         “Cut it in half” – No matter how much speaking time is allotted to you, use only half of it. This is a great practice for all your communications, but especially for meetings.
·         Be authentic – You will never go wrong when you speak in your true voice.
·         “Paint a picture” – People think visually. Your audience will respond better to what you say when you use anecdotes and stories to get your idea across.
·         Don’t be a “motor mouth” – Many speakers don’t know when to shut up. Introduce intelligent pauses into your delivery.
·         Skip the written notes – They make you seem artificial.
·         “Don’t get too comfortable” – You’re fooling yourself if you think that the longer you are in front of your audience members, the more they will hang on your every word.
·         “Nobody cares unless you do” – Be passionate about your message. If you don’t have emotional involvement with your material, don’t expect your audience to care.
·         PowerPoint – Keep your slides to an absolute minimum (10 or less). Don’t stuff each slide with a lot of dense information. Include images to spice up your text.
·         “Make sure no assembly is required” – The more comprehensible you make your information, the more successful you will be. Today, people can’t focus; they find it hard to pay attention for more than 10 seconds at a time.
·         “Put it on a cracker” – Serve a brief summary up front, like an snack on a cracker, by explaining what you intend to communicate. This gives you an opportunity to determine if your audience is ready, willing and able to digest the “verbal meal” you plan to serve.
·         “What’s in it for me?” – People won’t invest their attention unless they receive some kind of payoff. Tell your audience right away what they will gain by listening.
·         Presentations – When you begin, most of your audience thinks, “How long is this going to last?” Take a tip from TED Talks: Keep your presentation to 18 minutes or less.
·         Meetings – Don’t fritter away the valuable time of the people who work with you or for you. Establish strict meeting time limits.
·         Emails – Just as you must do with meetings, keep your emails short. This demonstrates respect for your colleagues.
·         Sales pitches – Involve your prospects right from the start. To get a discussion going, stay away from monologues. When it’s time to deliver your pitch, be ready to present it in two minutes or less.
·         Commit to being “clear and concise” – You will always have a more positive impact on your audience if you show them you respect their time. The best way to do that is to keep it short.
About the Author
Joseph McCormack is founder of the BRIEF Lab and consults with executives on how to disseminate their messages.
This summary is restricted to the personal use of Shashidharan Nair (shashidharan.nair@db.com)
“When you want to get more, decide to say less. Those who want to succeed – even thrive – in an at­ten­tion-deficit economy are masters of lean com­mu­ni­ca­tion.”
“When you think you have an hour and you wait to deliver the good stuff until the end, you’re too late.”
“If you are giving people progress reports, being brief requires that you give them what they are looking for – not all of the other details and information they really don’t care about.”
“Whereas we remember only 10 % of what we hear and 30% of what we read, we remember a whopping 80% of what we see.”
“Narrative mapping synthesizes volumes of information into a visual outline that produces a logical, strategic, highly contextual and relevant story.”
“From blogs and microblogs to Twitter, Instagram and beyond, there has been a growing emphasis to make com­mu­ni­ca­tion easier and shorter to produce and share content online.”
“Like Apple, businesses that embrace stories can make quick connections that last. Those that feel stories aren’t appropriate leave people hungry, confused and irritated.”
“People are eager for stories. Not dis­ser­ta­tions. Not lectures. Not informative essays.” (Kendall Haven, Story Proof )
“Brevity is your weapon – and it starts with the résumé. Trim it, highlight your successes and put them in context.”
“Good interviews…are short and to the point. You make it easy for your potential employer to understand who you are, where you’ve come from and why you’ve been successful.”
“To be brief is to create a compact quality of expression.”
“I think that ideas…have to be extremely brief. Three words are better than four, or four words are better than six.” – Kristi Faulkner, president and founder, Womenkind
“When we fail to be clear and concise, the con­se­quences can be brutal: wasted time, money and resources; decisions made in confusion; worthy ideas rejected; people sent off in wrong directions; done deals that always seem to stall.”
 





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Saturday, March 14, 2015

PM Career advice: Charisma can be learned

Science says that charisma can be learned — here are 9 proven strategies
It's not something you're born with.

"Charisma is simply the result of learned behaviors," says Olivia Fox Cobane, author of "The Charisma Myth."

Use words that people can relate to.
In his book "Why Presidents Succeed," University of California at Davis psychologist Dean Keith Simonton argues that the most effective communicators use concrete — rather than abstract — language.

"'I feel your pain' has association," he tells the APA Monitor, "but 'I can relate to your viewpoint' doesn't. The most charismatic presidents reached an emotional connection with people talking not to their brains but to their gut."
Express your feelings.
Express your feelings.

"Charismatic individuals express their feelings spontaneously and genuinely," Claremont McKenna College psychologist Ronald E. Riggio says. "This allows them to affect the moods and emotions of others."
It's called emotional contagion, or "the tendency to automatically mimic and synchronize expressions."
So if you're really excited about something, other people with "catch" that excitement, too.

Talk about your potential — it's more impressive than talking about your accomplishments.
A Stanford-Harvard study recently cited on Marginal Revolution suggests that accomplishments aren't what capture people's attention — rather, it's a person's perceived potential.

"This uncertainty [that comes with potential] appears to be more cognitively engaging than reflecting on what is already known to be true," the authors write.

Mirror the person you're speaking to.
Psychologists have found that when two people are getting along, they start to mirror each other's bodies as a sign of trust and safety. Your date crosses their legs, so do you; you take a sip of water, so does your date.

If you want to do better in a negotiation, the research says to mimic your opponent's behavior.

Walk the same rate as other people — they'll think you're friendly.
In a Durham University study, students were shown video clips of 26 other students walking — some with looser gaits, some tighter.

Just a few steps were needed to give a sense of personality. Students equated looser gaits with extroversion and adventurousness, while the more clipped walkers were seen as neurotic.

A University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign study on walking speeds showed that guys match women's walking paces if they're attracted to them.

Keep your hands and torso open to signal that you're welcoming.
Body language experts agree that posture speaks louder than words.
Keeping your hands stuffed in your pockets and your shoulders turned inward sends the signal that you're not interested. But talking with your hands and standing in an open stance shows that you're available.

Bring a dog with you, since it makes you look nurturing.
In a University of Michigan experiment, women read vignettes about men. Whenever the story featured a person who owned a dog, women rated them with higher long-term attractiveness.

The researchers concluded that owning a pet signaled that you're nurturing and capable of making long-term commitments. It also makes you appear more relaxed, approachable, and happy.

Smile more.
In two experiments, researchers in Switzerland examined the relationship between attractiveness and smiling.

They found that the stronger the smile, the more attractive a face looked.

In fact, a happy facial expression compensated for relative unattractiveness.

Get people to talk about themselves.
According to Harvard research, talking about yourself stimulates the same brain regions as sex or a good meal.

"Activation of this system when discussing the self suggests that self-disclosure ... may be inherently pleasurable," Scientific American reports.

And when people talk about their experiences, they become more vulnerable to one another, and when they become more vulnerable to one another, they form social bonds and coinvest in one another's welfare.
   
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